Gay Couple Talk About Love, Preferences and Being in an Open Relationship

“I believe that monogamy is a social construct. There are a lot of norms and expectations imposed on us for what relationships are supposed to look like. I think it’s really important for us to express how we feel and have the opportunity to redefine what a relationship means.”

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I might skip a meal or I might not eat
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that kindness burrito presents a very
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clean bottom he can bottom spontaneously
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on this five-day that’s really implying
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hi my name is treszura my ambulance
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dispatcher my name is Christian and I
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work in mental health services for queer
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people of color we met on Instagram I
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saw a picture of present and avid I said
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damn that dude this is Oh fine he
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messaged me and said God took his
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sweet-ass time on you and I thought it
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was really sweet so kind of cheesy but I
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guess it worked
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unofficially we’ve been together for
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three years
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so when I saw him I knew I was in love
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with him from first initially I just
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wanted a gay best friend out here in LA
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Dresden and I had a lot in common and I
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felt like he was that person for me and
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I was especially out the closet in love
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with the man of my dreams
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I believe that monogamy is a social
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construct there are a lot of norms and
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expectations imposed on us for what
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relationships are supposed to look like
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and I think it’s really important for
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for us to just really express how we
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feel and what we need and really have
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the opportunity to redefine what a
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relationship means according to our
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agreements and what we want we’re just
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both humans and we both have temptations
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and desires and it’s it’s better just to
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communicate the desires with your
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partners and we’re in different cities
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we’ll maybe download the app just a few
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weeks ago over in Vegas and we’re
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walking down the strip you know just
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having the time of our lives and we’re
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like hey do you want done with Grindr
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and see what what’s going on out here
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we were very unsuccessful okay it was
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like 3:00 a.m. and like nobody was awake
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he can’t even though we’re both averse
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we’re very sexually compatible when I
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perform a more top role and you’re on
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the bottom right would you I think love
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is when just feel so safe with that
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person you feel at home you would just
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do anything for that person love to me
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means being excited every day about your
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partner and wanting to grow more in love
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with them wanting to share every
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experience with them I love you I fell
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in love with tresine because we’re very
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similar he’s super chill has a kind
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heart and is really carrying a little
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awkward that Sergey Christian is a
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I planned out person and he just keeps
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me in scheduling and check he helps me
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get things done he helps me in so much
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aspects of my life and what I just
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appreciate you so much thank you my love
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for you grows every day and through that
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intensity I hope that we never feel
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limited never feel like we’re losing our
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individuality and creativity I want to
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continue to learn how to understand you
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and how to be in love with you I love
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you for being my rock and keeping me
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safe and making me always feel safe and
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protected I want to thank you before
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just being you and I love you so much
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with me to thank you for being my person
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