After an awkward situation involving her 4-month-old baby vomiting on her label-obsessed cousin’s shirt at a family get-together, a mom has taken to Reddit for advice.
On the subreddit AmIthe Asshole?, the new mom, who goes by the username isaoas, wrote that she had organized a “baby ceremony” to introduce loved ones to her daughter Charlotte. Her banker cousin Alice, who she describes as having “expensive taste,” and is the “sort of person who has a minimum price range for how much she spends on clothing,” and Alice’s parents were among the attendees.
All was going well when it came time for her cousin to hold the baby—the OP said Alice looked happy. But the relative’s emotional state quickly changed when the bundle of joy she was carrying suddenly vomited on her shirt. “Alice handed Charlotte back to me and ran off crying, and spent the rest of the event crying in the car. I went to see her to apologize but she didn’t want to hear any of it. My mum gave her one of her shirts which was too big for her and she felt completely upset and humiliated,” isaoas wrote.
When things like this happen, it’s not a pretty scene for anyone involved (excluding the innocent baby, of course). The mom feels guilty and embarrassed and the person holding the little one feels embarrassed. But we’re all expected to move on, right?
Unfortunately, the cousin just couldn’t get over the situation.
Days later, the Redditor said her mom delivered some bad news: her aunt (the mom of her cousin) wanted the OP to pay them for the cost of the blouse, which was about £1800 or $1,983, since it had gotten “completely ruined.”
The OP stood her ground and refused. “At the end of the day we all know what babies can be like. She took a risk wearing something so expensive knowing a baby was nearby and unfortunately it backfired. I feel bad for her but it was not my fault.”
Nevertheless, she still had some doubts about whether she made the right decision, which is why she posted to Reddit asking if she was, indeed, the asshole in the situation.
Well, the comments section heated up, and currently has over 9,000 responses to this outrageous situation.
Many spoke out to tell the OP that she made the right choice not to reimburse her cousin.
“NTA (not the asshole). [It’s] common sense to not wear expensive clothing around newborns unless you are OK with risking this happening. She should have known better,” wrote user slytherin 2019.
“NTA. She is demanding £1800 from a woman who just had a baby?? At best you should pay for dry cleaning!” added Redditor UglyDuffelBag.
Several users, like JustSomeBoringRando, felt both parties were in the wrong, by commenting ESH, meaning Everyone Sucks Here. “It’s not anyone’s business what she wears or how much money she spends on her clothes. Babies are messy. However, someone that has not spent a fair amount of time around infants may not fully appreciate or understand this. My son was a puker … I carried a hand towel around with me all day for the first six months of his life and I would automatically hand it off to whomever was holding him. All that said, it’s pretty crappy for her to expect you to replace her blouse.”
And then others, like user _nea felt the OP was in the wrong. “If your kids break something you are being responsible too. Your kid destroyed her blouse. Most of you say the cousin’s stupidity caused this situation but I don’t think so. Not everyone is well informed about babies or kids and certainly don’t think they will destroy your clothes. Also babies do not barf all the time. As someone else figured out, what are burp cloths (or whatever the cloth is called to prevent a baby barfing on your clothes) for?”
Despite mixed opinions about what the OP did, her post eventually received the Not-the-A-hole label, settling things for the Redditor once and for all.