Yoni Healing Massage and Yoni Pleasure Massage are not always the same.
Pleasure massage, with a heart touch, and an intention of Honouring, of giving, of connection, will always have a healing element.
Healing Massage is different.
It’s a specific practice, or rather, series of practices with a very clear intention.
To heal, to release, to relax, to soften, to open, to sensitise, to vitalise, to connect, to embody.
Tissue that may be filled with pain, with tension, with tightness.
Tissue that may be filled with emotional blockage of shame, of embarrassment, of guilt.
Tissue that may be carrying generations of hurt, of disconnect, of withdrawal.
Tissue that may be a result of painful, unwanted touching, of unprepared penetration.
Tissue that has never claimed pleasure as its own.
Tissue that has been disconnected from the rest of the body and the mind.
Tissue that has no place in the heart.
Tissue that has been judged.
Yoni Healing Massage is slow, so slow.
Gentle, so gentle.
It takes time.
Time to release time to integrate and connect.
Time for the mind to catch up and acknowledge what’s happening in the body.
Time for the heart to open and for energy to flow.
The first massage, and maybe for a while, is not internal.
It works with release points externally, on the pubic bone, in the crease at the top of the thighs.
When there has been stress and trauma, when the disconnect is deep, when the hurt has been present for a long time, the release needs to be slow.
The pattern in the body is contractive, it’s tight, it holds on.
To allow the release, to create a pattern of change takes time.
Pleasure will come, in its time.
Yoni Healing Massage has an intention rather than a goal.
A goal can be a limitation, it sees one path, one ending.
An intention is allowing. It’s connecting to the body, to intuition and being guided in that. It’s not a set practice, and it may go down many paths for the healing to take place.
Much that’s held in the yoni is not about sex. It’s about our self-definition, our creativity, our vitality, our personal power.
It’s about owning, accepting and loving all that we are.
And it’s about creating possibility.
When there are sexual blockages and inhibitions, when pleasure and orgasm are difficult and a struggle, when sexual desire is low, when there is numbness or pain, pleasure massage may not be the best experience.
First there’s the healing.
Then the pleasure…
What’s Next? Talk with others. Take action.
We are proud of our SOCIAL INTEREST GROUPS—WEEKLY PHONE CALLS to discuss, gain insights, build communities— and help solve some of the most difficult challenges the world has today. Calls are for Members Only (although you can join the first call for free). Not yet a member of The Good Men Project? Join below!
Join the Conscious Intersectionality FACEBOOK GROUP here. Includes our new call series on Human Rights.
Join The Good Men Project Community
All levels get to view The Good Men Project site AD-FREE.
Register New Account
Please note: If you are already a writer/contributor at The Good Men Project, log in here before registering. (Request a new password if needed).
ANNUAL PLATINUM membership ($50 per year) includes:
1. AN ALL ACCESS PASS — Join ANY and ALL of our weekly calls, Social Interest Groups, classes, workshops, and private Facebook groups. We have at least one group phone call or online class every day of the week.
2. See the website with no ads when logged in!
3. MEMBER commenting badge.
ANNUAL GOLD membership ($25 per year) includes all the benefits above — but only ONE Weekly Social Interest Group and ONE class.
ANNUAL BRONZE membership ($12 per year) is great if you are not ready to join the full conversation but want to support our mission anyway. You’ll still get a BRONZE commenting badge, and you can pop into any of our weekly Friday Calls with the Publisher when you have time. This is for people who believe—like we do—that this conversation about men and changing roles and goodness in the 21st century is one of the most important conversations you can have today.
We have pioneered the largest worldwide conversation about what it means to be a good man in the 21st century. Your support of our work is inspiring and invaluable.
Photo by iStock Photo.